Who am I?

For Edenity, the aim of Personhood is to heal the soul-level fear of being: to be alive, to be vulnerable, to love, to engage in our passion work, and to embody all of who we are whether people notice or not.

While it may look similar to other methods from a distance, it’s distinguished by three key principles.

1. We are responsible for the contents of our unconscious.
2. Human beings are emotive before they are willful, mental, physical, or energetic.
3. The personal self is spiritually sacred.

While these premises may seem simple, embodying them is a complex and challenging journey. EBE is fundamentally a deconstructive rather than constructive process, based on the assumption that to really heal it’s necessary to embody the soul as human in this realm.

This is a stark contrast from working with yourself energetically or mentally, to ventilate or transcend difficult feelings and build more effective coping mechanisms. EBE assumes the embodied soul is capable of feeling anything, and it’s only our protection that needs coping mechanisms.

The love you needed as a child meant having caregivers who felt what you felt, in real-time, and including why you felt that way. We offer that this is how love is supposed to move from a parent to a child. It’s a very high bar, and while your parents surely did the best they could, all of our parents fall short.

As children, we blame ourselves for that. The agony of colliding with the protective walls covering our parents’ hearts recapitulates our first soul fear: the fear of being. This happens long before we think, or self-identify, and is stored at the deepest levels of our emotional body. Most people never directly experience that, yet it drives all of our behavior. It’s an intractable sense of loneliness, profound unworth, and a sense of being existentially wrong.

These feelings are so unbearable that in order to survive, we innocently control them as best we can. Unable to get the love we need from our caregivers, we contort ourselves like a pretzel in order to fit their reality, believing we must leave behind the aspects of us that don’t fit if we are to be loved.

This isn’t about blaming your parents. Their parents weren’t perfect either. It’s about squarely facing what was missing so you can fill that in with your own love and become who you were destined to be.

When who you essentially are is running your life, rather than the person you had to become to survive your childhood, everything changes, and a lot of it unintentionally. Rather than having to work to change your intentions, actions, and outcomes, the more soulfully authentic “you” organically expresses itself in life naturally. And life responds.

While EBE has psychotherapeutic elements, it goes deeper. We facilitate the emergence of your soul, rather than improve your functionality. In this way, you don’t turn into who you want, you turn into who you really are.

And we don’t help you improve your coping skills. Instead, we help you feel the wounds that required you to have coping mechanisms in the first place.

The results of living as a soulful self are myriad. When you don’t need to control down your emotions, you gain back the energy that was unconsciously spent managing them, because a healthy self doesn’t need to manage emotions. You just feel them. And a soulfully embodied self can do that effortlessly.